How Men Become Insensitive

From an early age young boys are taught to suppress their emotions and sensitive tendencies. They are trained by their fathers, other male role models, the media, and their peers that to be sensitive is to be weak. These same boys turn into men and have difficulty in life, particularly in intimate relationships. The root of their problem is their inability to show emotion and feel it themselves. This training men received early on causes them to have their sensitive side tuned out. When they are emotionally distant then loved ones in their life feel stranded with no support and the emotional food that we all need - to have our feelings validated by someone we intimately care about.

This is really the core isn't it. We must feel validated emotionally and men are taught early to reject this notion. Men teach each other that they can somehow survive on this empty tank of emotions. It's not sustainable or realistic and this is why so many divorces stem from an emotionally distant man.

There is one emotion that is widely accepted in the male community and that is Anger. Men accept and even encourage young boys and their peers to be aggressive and express their anger. This is unhealthy and is helps boys become violent. This social training is the reason why male bullying is so prevalent in our school system. They are taught that they can use their anger to overpower weaker males and are basically getting emotionally validated by force. This is very unhealthy!

Angry, emotionally out of touch men are also part of the reason why wars get started. Just look at history. Behind every major world conflict there have been plenty of aggressive insensitive men ready to fight to the death over anything. This male problem all leads back to an inability to show all emotions and to validate others.